So it’s been a year working from home now which is something. It’s also Women’s History Month (for not much longer, but here we are). I’m going to talk about something that’s happened to me many a time in honor of March and working from home and all the female engineers I know.
Maybe you know an engineer. This engineer doesn’t necessarily have to be a software engineer, but mechanical, chemical, aeronautical, you name it. Have you ever asked that engineer what she’s been doing at work, how work’s been going, or something to that effect? Or perhaps this engineer has brought up work in a conversation. Maybe you’re just being introduced to this engineer and you’re finding out what she does for a living. The conversation might go like this,
“How’s work been going?”
“Pretty good. I’ve been working on [insert project here].”
“Oh wow, that sounds complicated. Haha you’re smart.”
“. . .thanks? . . .”
Conversation moves to something else.
Another situation you might run across is a very excited engineer wanting to show you a project she’s been working realllllly hard on for a long time.
“Want to see my project I just finished up??”
“Sure.”
“Look! It’s [insert project]!
“Cool!”
“. . .thanks. . .”
Conversation ends.
I get it. It’s hard to come up with conversation for topics you may not be super familiar with. It isn’t just for engineers (I’m guilty of this in conversation too), but this is my wheelhouse and I’m using it as an example.
Now, what might one say instead of the token “cool” responses? I’ve been thinking about this for quite a while and here’s a few to get you started:
- What’s been the most challenging part of this project?
- What problem were you trying to solve?
- How does X work?
- Which part are you most proud about figuring out how to solve?
- Did you have to work with teammates on this project? How were they?
- What would you improve if you had to do it over again?
- Are there any new concepts/technologies you used?
- What was the most fun/challenging thing to learn about?
My intention is not to make anyone feel bad, because I know not everyone wants to hear a ton about work stuff all the time. I also know that it’s really hard to have an in-depth conversation with someone about technical information you’re unfamiliar with. (So, how’s all that tension in the metals and bending going, mechanical engineers?) I just hope that it encourages you to ask a follow up question or two the next time you stumble into one of these conversations. You’ll make an engineer feel seen and happy.
More next time!
-Rachel